When monogamy didn’t work for Jame Barrett, he didn’t just walk away—he rewrote the rules. At 30 years old, this recording artist from Los Angeles openly shares that he used to be a chronic cheater. He hid things, snuck around, and constantly felt at odds with himself in traditional one-on-one relationships.
But instead of continuing that cycle, he made a bold pivot into a lifestyle that challenges everything we’ve been taught about love and fidelity.
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A Lifestyle Shift That Changed Everything
For Jame, the decision to embrace polyamory wasn’t about being rebellious. It was about being honest.
“I was always cheating in my past relationships,” he admits. “Not because I didn’t love them, but because I wanted variety—and I wasn’t being honest with myself or them.”
Polyamory—where multiple romantic relationships exist with full knowledge and consent—offered him a solution. A structure where transparency replaced secrecy, and emotional commitment didn’t require exclusivity.
Meet the Family: Five Wives, Eleven Kids, and One Unified Household
Yes, you read that right—Jame has five wives and 11 children, and they all live under the same roof in California. His wives are:
- Cameron, 29
- Jessica, 31
- Reta, 28
- Gabby, 30
- Diana, 30
Cameron and Jessica have been with him for over 13 years. Reta joined eight years ago, Gabby seven, and Diana four. Together, they’ve built what Jame describes as a loving, dynamic, and collaborative family structure.
And the kids? Their names span across generations of love: Aiden, Abel, Jessie, Ayaan, Jett, JD, Sophia, Octavia, Bobby, Cleo, and Summer.
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How Polyamory Reshaped His Views on Love and Responsibility
Jame doesn’t sugarcoat it—managing a family this large isn’t easy. But he insists the benefits far outweigh the challenges.
“There’s definitely more emotional labor, and financially, it’s demanding. But I always dreamed of a big family, and this life gave it to me faster.”
He believes polyamory made him a more mature and intentional partner. “I’ve grown. I lead more thoughtfully. I had to evolve to be everything they needed.”
What the Wives Think: The Pros and Cons of Sharing a Husband
So, what’s it really like being one of five wives?
According to Jame, the women in his life are fully onboard—and their voices matter just as much as his. He says they appreciate the shared responsibilities, especially when it comes to raising children. There’s more support, less isolation, and a feeling of sisterhood.
Still, jealousy happens. It’s not all sunshine and agreement. One-on-one time can be hard to come by, and conflicts naturally arise in such a large emotional ecosystem.
“But we talk it through. That’s the difference—everything is out in the open.”
Is This the Future of Modern Love?
Jame is the first to admit that what works for him may not work for everyone. But he’s quick to point out that polyamory isn’t some fringe fantasy—it’s practiced around the world, often outside of religion or tradition.
He and his family aren’t doing this for cultural or spiritual reasons. “We’re doing it because we found real love this way,” he explains. “People reach out to us all the time. They tell us we’ve inspired them to explore honest relationships that fit their own needs.”
Dispelling the Myths: It’s Not a Cult—It’s a Choice
Let’s get one thing straight—Jame’s family isn’t part of some underground movement or secret society. They’re just adults who decided to structure their relationships differently.
“It’s not that strange when you think about it,” he says. “People divorce, remarry, co-parent. We just chose to do it all at once—with honesty.”
He stresses that his mission isn’t to convert people—it’s to normalize love in all its forms. And maybe, along the way, push for legal recognition of non-monogamous households.
Balancing Public Scrutiny and Private Joy
Of course, not everyone understands. The internet can be brutal. People love to judge what they don’t know.
But Jame isn’t concerned about the noise. He celebrates his 30th birthday surrounded by handmade cards from his kids, joyfully balancing music, parenting, and partnerships.
He admits the emotional load is heavy, but so is the love.
At the end of the day, Jame Barrett’s story isn’t about fame, attention, or rebellion. It’s about choosing a life that’s honest, intentional, and built on mutual respect—even if it looks different from the norm.
He’s not trying to convince the world to follow his path—just to respect it. And in a time when relationships are evolving faster than ever, his story offers one powerful message:
Love doesn’t have to follow a script. It just has to be real.